She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman (Kerner)

This should be mandatory for school kids. So much is taboo and unknown to men for no reasons.

From beginning to end the art of making women come...the best guide...This book is worth buying.You will get a lot of knowledge on the women valve.

The book presents a sensible logic and explains the female pleasure in a great detail. This playful, witty and informative volume suggests a novel way to female satisfaction. The writer undermines penetration itself and takes it off the pedestal of ultimate means to joy. That makes place for 'the way of the tongue' as the best way to pleasure--no, not as an alternative, but as THE central action. He says now and again that men don't last long, never long enough to see the female partner reaching the paradise. He recommends that men should postpone their moment of pleasure, and the best way to do this is to use the soft power of the mouth, keeping the hard tool out of the way entirely. The book explains in detail the intricacies of body parts, illuminating the area of purple mystery. A must read, even if you are the one to last long when you penetrate, so long that she achieves the elusive O. This book can add a refreshing change in your conjugal behaviour.

from a feeling of generally shoving my head in the concerned region to surgical precision. this guy knows his stuff...

As the title states, this book is all about pleasuring the partner (woman) first before you even think about your own. All this boils down to in-depth technique of cunnilingus. And boy, it achieves its purpose unequivocally. After Kerner explains the necessity of the book, rather book's aim, he delves into basics of female genital anatomy with easy to understand simple black and white line illustrations. After which he slowly goes in to basics of the technique and then builds up to quite in-depth knowledge of techniques with lots of variations. Wherever necessary the author provides simple illustrations. The final chapter provides a consolidated and concise compendium of the methods explained earlier in the book by way of various routines divided from beginner to advanced levels. The appendix serves as a good adjunct to the book with a few undiscussed subjects. If you were to look for problems with this book, you might only find two, and both can be overlooked as they don't hinder the information flow. First would be that Kerner has directed the book only towards men who are looking to satisfy women, eventhough the book can be used to satisfy any woman by her partner, irrespective of her partner's gender. Second would be that Kerner's general tone is kind of colloquial, playful, pretending to be cool. While most would like it, it makes me yawn at some places. But that's completely subjective. Absolutely readable with truck load of useful information. Everyone, who enjoys sex, should read it, irrespective of gender and sexual orientation. Although it needs to be compared with its closest competitors namely Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life and Women's Anatomy Of Arousal: Secret Maps To Buried Pleasure.

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They have given me used book....it should have been mentioned if you are providing used book..charging 983 rupees for a used book is too much...anyway good book...worst copy...it's like a tasty coffee poured in a ugly cup...

This book is really well informed and contains lots of useful data and information that most of us IGNORE !!! do buy it and read it carefully !!! provides HOPE for all of us husbands desperate to try to make our wives happy ... whatever your "problem" is, you will find good advice in this book. I highly recommend it. The book is useful beyond the back-cover description !!!

Must read book for all men. I seriously recommend it to all men.

I learned a lot about the woman’s body and how to pleasure her multiple times… super interesting to read and reread ;)

I was looking for a book that would help me be kinkier and hopefully teach me something about the female anatomy and the ways they experience pleasure. I read all the great reviews and praises and it seemed ideal and highly readable so I decided to give She Comes First a chance over a multitude of books on this fascinating and delicious subject. I was worried it would be one of those sex books who have a lot of words but don't say or teach us much. The reason She Comes First works is because the author Ian Kerner (a sex therapist with a PhD) makes those uncomfortable guys comfortable with the idea of cunnilingus and tells us why and how we should go down. I find his approach to this book to be refreshing because he really thinks of it as making love, and has a pleasure-oriented approach and has no problem making his points and ideas come across and comes off as a respectful well-mannered and educated gentleman and not as a sex-obsessed pig. He doesn't see women as objects and his objective with this book is basically to help men enjoy and appreciate the vulva in a different way and teach us a few things. The author genuinely seems to be of help to men and women around the world and I thank him for this. Kerner succeeds at giving his audience the important resources and facts to know and doesn't rush in building up to the techniques and the action. He guides us through (and the 18 parts of the clitoris, that's right 18! Most of which you can't see). I suspect that even if you are a self-proclaimed expert you will learn from She Comes First and if you're a beginner this book will be of great help. Kerner talks about the clitoris as more than a love button and describes society as "Ill-cliterate". One of the best parts was the sings to recognize she is having an orgasm, often men can't tell the difference if she's a good screamer but the complete list that is given here is convincing and now I'm positive I can tell if a woman faked it with me. Some of the signs are obvious and some of them are not. There can also be times when you think she had or is about to orgasm but in reality you're scratching the surface and more time is needed. Kerner stresses a few times that the goal should be pleasure-oriented and not necessarily orgasm-oriented. A woman may not always orgasm but she will find it to be a pleasurable experience and want it more. The truth is there is a good percentage of women who can't get off simply on intercourse and oral is more pleasurable to them which is the entire premise of this work. The author stresses there are 3 parts to making love: foreplay, coreplay and moreplay, because if you're a male and you're done, chances are she's not. None of those should be overlooked, especially foreplay which unfortunately tends to be skipped by some men. There are three "acts" if you will, to She Comes First that combined make an excellent guide to oral sex and female orgasm and a fantastic read. That's probably the best part, the information is given in a manner that makes it captivating and interesting which some facts, statistics and cultural history thrown in. The book is NEVER a bore. One of my favorite parts is the following :"Hope is a fair maiden who slips through your hand. Recollection is a beautiful old woman of no use at the moment. Repetition is a beloved wife of whom one never tires of". On a side note the only thing this book could improve upon is the diagrams of the genitals, I would have liked there be one that shows the aroused vulva as the author describes it (although he gives a fine detailed description). More diagrams, especially in different states of arousal would have been a nice touch but what's here is fine. I liked the diagrams that showed how to perform some of the techniques. They're drawn very well, obviously they're not pictures of the real thing but the depiction goes well with the overall vibe of She Comes First. So ladies buy this book for your man, flip through it yourself and then "forget" it somewhere he will see it. Gents, you be well equipped to have this book in your possession... and read it. It's devoted entirely to her pleasure and you know she'll love it. Just remember it's about HER and not your EGO, take your time and make sure what's done really is done before you pat yourself on the back (if someone should do that it's her). The least She Comes First will do is make you realize that cunnilingus is often necessary for a female to orgasm, is pleasurable for both the male and female and give you techniques and tell you on specific areas to concentrate on. Excellent read, very recommended 5/5.

Speaking as a man, the first thing I'd say is how disappointed I am by my half of the species that it's even necessary to produce a book like this. However, sad as that is, 'She Comes First' certainly makes an excellent effort to provide useful insights, broaden ideas, dispel myths, and generally encourage us to think more creatively about the act of love. I bought it after reading an interview with a woman author whose work I admire, in which she referred to it as something of a landmark text that had become a must-read. So out of curiosity I downloaded the Kindle edition. Would I recommend it? In a way I've lived my life instinctively following the principles expressed here, so there wasn't much that was surprising or revelatory to me. Still, the first half of the book is a passionately argued essay on why men need to make more effort to understand and fulfil the women we love, and it's a rewarding read for that. The second part is more of a 'how-to' step-by-step training guide that perhaps treats things in a slightly too mechanical way, but fair enough, and it offers details of a wide range of 'techniques'. Even so, I'd say there's still plenty more one could add to the sensual repertoire that's listed here, and in that respect by the end I was left thinking 'oh, but what about...'. It's important that men know this stuff, but I wonder if the type of men inclined to pick this up will be those who least need to learn its lessons.