The Hard Questions: 100 Essential Questions to Ask Before You Say "I Do"

I recommend couples to read this book. It's share deep thoughts you're in a relationship before get marry or in a relationship period. I want to reorder again.

My best friend's wife is a non-religious couples therapist, and she has her clients go through this book together. I got this a Valentine's gift for my boyfriend and I to work through, as we were getting pretty serious and started thinking about getting married. This was the best thing that every happened to me, relationship-wise. As we started to read through the book, we both realized how much we didn't know about each other and how much we vastly differed on our responses to the questions presented in this book. Ultimately, we couldn't get through the chapter on money, and our lack of compromise led to our break-up. I don't think this book is meant to make you end your relationship with someone, but it does make you think. It helped me get a frame of reference about building these thoughts in a the start of relationship and working through them slowly. I would say I'm in a much healthier relationship now and this book helped me create a better foundation at how I should be approaching a relationship and communicating with my partner.

I love this. I got it for my “family and marriage therapy” college class and we read the entire thing. I always recommend it to other couples. I do wish it was in Spanish as well!

My husband and I read this book when we were dating. We've been married for seven years. Now we gift it to anyone thinking about getting married. It poses trivial questions about daily life that you probably would not think of on your own. Sometimes the same questions are worded differently. This can be annoying or get you to approach the same subject from a different prospective. For some of my friends, this book allows one partner to discuss a sensitive area (spending habits, family) without the other person feeling attacked. We went through the questions during road trips as a way to pass time. Not only did we get to know each other better, it was a confrontational way to discuss issues for which we had strong feelings. Plus, when the eldest of four marries an only child, holiday spending and family priorities are important topics. Eventually we would have gotten to most of these topics on our own, but it helped create a stronger foundation for our marriage. One commenter wrote that this book doesn't ask philosophical questions. That's true. Hopefully, those types of things are discussed while you're enjoying a meal. This book will ask if it is okay to lend money to family or where to spend holidays. Topics that are better discussed before marriage than argued after the nuptials.

I have seen some great success with this book in my personal relationship and highly reccomend it to others! I am currently in a long distance relationship in which my partner live 730 miles away. We had come to the point in our relationship where we had been discussing marriage and the possibility of me moving to be with him and his son. Uprooting my life has been a difficult pill to swallow and I wanted to make sure I was making the right choice before making such a move. I purchased this book so we might cover those make or break relationship moments before actually making the move and I have to say I was pleasantly surprised. My partner was not only more than willing to participate, but excited as well! I was thrilled at his enthusiasm as well as at his answers! We were able to have some riveting conversations on those tough relationship questions and I currently making moves to relocate!

I wish I had found this book when I was much younger. I wasn't really capable of being honest with myself long with not being old enough and mature enough to know what I wanted. This book brings up as it says, the "HARD" questions. Things you may incorrectly assume about what will happen in your marriage. I would also recommend waiting until you both are past the "lovestruck" phase before reading it together. That is, if you aren't aware, the phase where your partner does something that usually would annoy you but you find "cute". The cuteness doesn't always last and can be replaced by a resentment. I like to give a copy to all the folks I care about that are getting married and want to stay married. So read this book and listen to your mom if you are lucky enough to have one. She's literally known you 9 months longer than anyone and can see things we are blind about.

My fiancee and I are seperated by thousands of miles, due to his military career, I'm on the east coast and he's on the west coast, so this book has really been a blessing to us. Because of the physical distance, this book has given us a lot to talk about that we wouldn't have even thought of, due to the seperation. When we are together, we're too excited to have those in depth conversations. With the book though, it makes us feel closer together, and makes us talk about so many things we may have overlooked. The book is a good size front. Plus easy to slide in your purse so you can take it with you. Its well written. Quickly shipped. Both of us enjoy the book and would purchase it again. Definitely recommended

This book was interesting, and the questions were a great way to start discussion. Although often we had already talked about the topics, it was still good to cover some of these specifics in preparation for marriage. HOWEVER - I would caution other Christian readers out there that this book is written by an extrememly liberal & secular author. The introduction and chapter intro's tell a very selfish story, about 2 people dating who are looking out for #1, and basically how to set expectations to get what YOU want out of a marriage (Rather than building a partnership as one mind). Also the chapter on sexuality assumes you are already sleeping together and is not appropriate for a couple waiting until marriage.

Thank you for great quality, price and delivery.

Anyone getting into a serious - long term realtionship - especially women...should take time to really read through this in depth looks at all the issues that make a good realtionship and have it last. And be realistic - don't think that you can "Fix" another person. Everyone has issues but be sure that you are not being slowly manipulated into staying if you are genuinely not having your needs and your personality respected. Good luck!!!!

War hilfsvoll, hat interessante, genaue und wichtige Fragen. Wir haben die im Urlaub verarbeitet, vieles besprochenen, vieles geklärt. Alles, was man braucht.

Everyone should read this not just before marriage but in a relationship and every before you start a relationship so you know what to look for!

Good at forcing critical conversations.