It'S Ok That You'Re Not Ok: Meeting Grief And Loss In A Culture That Doesn'T Understand

I've been gifted, loaned and purchased many grief books in the two years since my son died. I can honestly say that none of those texts resonated with me and the truth of my grief experience more than Megan Devine's new book. She is a credible source of useful information, bringing not only her educational and occupational background to bear but more importantly her own life experience with deep loss and a broken culture. Above all, she is a truth teller and an advocate you'll want in your grief space. The beauty of this book is the universal insights it offers for EVERYONE who has experienced deep grief or desires to genuinely support another in their loss. The author outlines a refreshing take on grief for the reader's consideration, one where acknowledgment and a desire to love better are critical components in supporting ourselves and each other following a significant loss (ie. death, accident, illness, etc.) She adeptly explains the model's concepts in lay terms, provides numerous examples for better understanding, and recommends practical exercises that one can use to help identify and manage the impact of grief. The quotes from her writing students are especially relevant and poignant. I found Megan's work validating and thought-provoking, especially concepts such as her broader definition of "early grief", common platitudes (and why I feel their adverse affect), the critical distinction between pain and suffering (and how to minimize latter), grief as an experiment rather than a problem to be solved, and the vital role of acknowledgment and companionship in creating a way forward. One of my favorite sections is the appendix, an essay on helping a grieving friend, which offers carefully-crafted and readily shareable ground rules for supporting a loved one. I'd recommend reading this book if you or a loved one are in the midst of deep grief and looking for validation, guidance, and honesty in a post-loss world. This book, and especially the associated resources available at refugeingrief.com, are powerful tools for navigating your grief landscape with love and understanding. It's permission to grieve in your way and in your time ... and this has made all the difference in my own post-loss landscape.

Altamente recomendable.

a book not to be missed, which should be translated into all languages, a guide for grief unique in the world.

I picked up this book after 6 months of my husbands death. It hit me so hard my entire world turned upside down, everything I knew and the life we had planned for us all gone in that one second. I was young and no one could understand my grief or relate to it. I was surrounded by so much love and support yet the hole in my heart remained open and nothing made sense. Thank you Megan for writing this book honestly and sharing your life with me, it helped me so much to understand that just like everything else in my life I can’t problem solve this. Your words have helped me to understand grief and not feel lonely and lost- THANK YOU! I needed to hear it from someone loud and clear- it’s ok you are not ok; YOU ARE NOT MEANT TO BE OK. I highly recommend this book to anyone who has lost someone, no matter which part of world you are in- no one is equipped to experience grief. This book will help navigate that.

Sollte jede:r mal gelesen haben!! Sehr sehr gutes Buch