Taming Your Outer Child: Overcoming Self-Sabotage and Healing from Abandonment

Loving this book. Easy flow, well explained, easy to connect with and gives you knowledge and support to work on yourself. Keeps you engaged and it’s easy to want to read.

And trust me, I’ve read a LOT of them! I heard Susan Anderson on a podcast and was intrigued so I bought her book…. and my life was changed! Having survived a childhood swallowed up in shame and zero self worth, followed by some horrible choices in my young adult life, I have been on a desperate journey of healing ever since. The concepts in this book - about self-compassion and understanding our unwanted bad behavior made so much sense, and I found myself healing more and more on every page! For anyone serious about doing their hard but so-effective work, I can’t recommend this book highly enough! I wish I could give it 11 out of 5 stars!

Very good book

Good book about separating thinking from behaviour. Although it seem that the same can be achieved by mindfulness meditation. Anyway a lot of good insights.

Very good book to read if you have had any type of hardship in your childhood like me it helps you understand why you may act in certain ways try it

I've many who have thought that healing the inner child was all you need - me included. But after being a spiritual counselor for many years, I noticed that even though some people nurtured and loved their inner child they still acted out in a destructive way and, most importantly, they had great difficult, or flat out refused, to accept the same acceptance of vulnerability, love and nurturing from others. This often resulted in greater self acceptance while still feeling disconnected from others, or not being able to be present to others - even loved one's. Ms. Anderson's book presents an excellent model to understand why nurturing the inner child may not be enough to change dysfunctional behavior. She also presents powerful tools to introduce the adult in you to enable you to successfully parent both you inner and outer child. Her book is both freeing and empowering!

I'm sending copies of this book to everyone I know who has abandonment issues. I bought it to help me with my overwhelming tendency to procrastinate. In just days I begin to see an incremental difference in the way I feel about the things I need to get done. That sudden panicky feeling that was attached to every thought of doing something constructive for myself began to fade and a new sense of security and motivation took over. You can trust me when I tell you that my abandonment issues are deep-seated and go back a long time, earlier than I can remember. In my childhood I was abandoned by my mother and father, betrayed and abused by my older siblings. In adulthood I was a single mother having been abandoned by my son's father and most recently, lost my son to drugs and heart disease at the age of 29. I'm here to tell you that this program (along with other therapies like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and the 12-step program of Al-Anon) have saved my life, literally. I was at a point after my son died that I was rehearsing killing myself. Learning about my inner child stopped me. Learning about my Outer child is bringing me back to life. BUY THIS BOOK!!

This book offers a completely new paradigm for understanding persistent self-sabotage and the underlying emotions that you are not listening to. The author connects the Outer Child concept to recent brain research. It helped me understand how my Outer Child has been driving my life choices far too often, that my Inner Child has been abandoned and that my Adult Self needs to be strengthened considerably. The healing dialogs take some daily work and ongoing commitment, but are well worth it. In the last two months I've procrastinated far, far less, doubled the amount of daily exercise I'm doing, all but stopped watching TV, resumed meditation and improved my diet & weight loss. It's been eye-opening! Well-worth it if you're tired of getting in your own way and not achieving your life goals.

Great book to help you admit your own self sabotaging behaviors and to finally stop. It made me realize how many behaviors I was engaging in that were embarrassing me, putting me on edge, or making me feel raw and exposed such as oversharing personal information and excessive arguing. This is a good book for you in you grew up in a family environment where childish behaviors were not controlled or where your caregivers did not place any importance on taking care of your emotional health and well being. I thought I was a disciplined person before I read this book, and to a degree that was true, but it introduced discipline into an area of my life I had never considered before: my emotion-fueled, impulsive behaviors. I used to think I was honoring my emotions by acting impulsively, but I've now realized that these impulsive behaviors are doing more harm than good and that there are other ways to hold space for my emotional life.

Non ho ancora ricevuto il libro. La consegna era prevista per il 19 di Luglio. Ho contattato ieri il venditore spero di avere sue notizie il prima possibile e di avere il mio libro ! Non sono purtroppo molto soddisfatto del servizio

Wer schon mal versucht hat sich selbst zu verstehen, warum schädliche Beziehungen von uns weiterverfolgt werden, warum wir Suchten nachgehen oder uns einfach nicht dazu bewegen können neue Gewohnheiten strikt zu folgen, wird hier gute Antworten finden. Die Psychologin Anderson hat Jahre ihrer Arbeit für die Öffentlichkeit zugänglich gemacht und hilft mit diesem Buch durch äußerst anschauliche Methoden, innere Konflikte zu lösen. Laien wie Fachmänner werden hier gleichermaßen gut angesprochen.

This is a fantastic book. This has to be the best explanation of inner and outer child therapy ever. Wonderful! Thank you.

Boek was netjes verpakt en snelle levering. Het is een werkboek die ik 100% aanraad. Ik heb er veel uit geleerd.