- The Art of Everyday Assertiveness: Speak Up. Say No. Set Boundaries. Take Back Control.

Patrick King’s Art of Everyday Assertiveness was recommended to me along with a second book that I will be reading soon. It is an excellent, straight-to-the-point primer that can be digested relatively quickly. It has some very important and effective strategies for recognizing where one’s boundaries are currently, how various factors in our lives have led us to where we are, and the ways in which having poor personal boundaries can negatively impact every area of our lives. After identifying where we’re at, the book uses a straightforward approach to presenting strategies and using them in our day to day lives, as well as a one-month suggested timeline for executing a variety of activities to slowly build up our assertiveness and being aware of what we are doing through cognitive behavior therapy / exposure therapy. Little by little, one can reclaim their independence and freedom from the toxic takers in our lives by simply examining where we are at, and what we need to do to get to the next step of the freedom, respect, and assertiveness we all deserve from others. It sounds crazy, but I am seeing how my own behaviors have wrecked relationships of mine and in turn wrecked me, and I am not going to live like it any more thanks to regular therapy and King’s great book. Easy to read – can kill it in a couple of sittings, but I found myself dipping in and revisiting some parts quite often afterward. The book comes with an easy-to-use outline topic summary at the end.

The reason I gave the art of everyday assertiveness a five star rating, because I need to work on being assertive. Patrick king explain what assertive mean and how be assertive in everyday life. This book help me understand that I need to be more assertive and stop pleasing people all the time. I wrote down the personal bill of rights, he mentioned in the book and I'm going to read them everyday, so I can remember to use them in situations when i start trying to please people. The chapter he explains that it's ok to say no resonate with me because I have a issue with not saying no alot. He explains that you can say no without giving any reason and alot of people are afariad of saying no because it can start a mini confrontation. I am going to use the advice that Patrick king,explain that it ok to say no even if I'm scared it's going to start a mini confrontation. He aslo explain difference between being passive, aggression, passive aggression and assertive. He break down each one and give examples on how the outcome will be. It's better to be assertive in any situation because it boost your confidence and people will respect you more and if you get turned down or somebody says no to you, you better not pout. The latter was said in the book I like that because everyone is not going to say yes or agree with you all the time. Read this book if you want to be assertive or get a perspective on assertive.

King makes some very good points and offers a 30 day plan to help you put his techniques into action. The book also has a summary section at the end that provides an overview of each chapter as a refresher after finishing the book. I've struggled with assertiveness all my life; this book puts into perspective the four different communication styles and why assertiveness is the best and most effective choice. I'm already seeing a difference in my life.

I must have finished this book in about 3 nights and underlined so much of it. At the end of the day, YOU are all you have to look out for you. So one must be able to assert themselves so they are not walked over day in and day out. I highly recommend this for your collection. This book also breaks it down how to stand up for yourself and not be a jerk about it, when some people can over do it.

This is a confidence booster honestly and if you struggle with saying no then this book is for you. Builds your self esteem and confidence

It’s really good but personally i was looking for a book that is straight to the point as in each topic is direct, however this book has lots of examples used in it which i had to skim past by, and it shows a lot of “defining what this feeling is” compared to “solving this feeling” honestly. So if you want a even more dtraight to the point book , this isnt that straight to the point

I read this in 2 days. Couldn’t put it down. I’d found it on Amazon by searching “finding your voice” It was perfect. Full of so many great ideas. Very practical and helpful. Doable. After years of abuse, I am a passive communicator and people pleaser. It has taken a toll. I am ready for a change and this book is a great guide. Very grateful to the author and Amazon. Highly recommend.

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I have read other books by this author. I found the book very helpful. Easy to read and understand.

What I got in this book is standing up for myself, being clear and direct when sharing my thoughts and feelings, protecting my rights without taking away the rights of other people. And most important one is "self compassion"❤

The book title says it all. The author reminds the reader when people-pleasing and appeasing others, to consider what’s at stake with your needs, desires, and way you pictured your life playing out. Brilliant Excerpts - The great cost of your lack of assertiveness and self-care is a life that doesn’t resemble anything you’ve ever wanted I love the analysis on Toxic Takers (TT). The people with a warped sense of entitlement. What you’ve worked for becomes a free resource they can tap into: The analysis on over-apologizing is spot on. Brilliant excerpts from the book : By over-apologizing, you are telling others that you are taking responsibility for the issue, even when that responsibility is inappropriate and you have not done any wrong. Over-apologizing creates an unnecessary sense of guilt and can undermine your own self-worth. When apologizing becomes second nature to you, not only do you remind others that you’re responsible for what goes wrong, you’re also directing that information to yourself. It’s like volunteering to be the scapegoat and even trying to get others to reinforce it as fact. The cycle continues when you start feeling worse and people blame you (inappropriately) even more. This book is essential reading for anyone who is looking to grow their self-care mindset and practice. I recommend the book.

Good, constructive book. Well formatted, interesting and helpful. Looking forward to trying out the exercises given. Great for personal development.

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