Love Yourself First!: Boost Your Self-Esteem in 30 Days: Change Your Habits, Change Your Life, Book 4

So far I am only 7 days into these exercises. Already they have helped me change the way i think about some things. For example, I have noticed when my mind tries to unfavourably compare me to others I've been able to tell myself "nobody is better than me" and that stops the thought process in its tracks. Before it would have lead to me thinking about all the things that were wrong with me. As I said it's still early days but the exercises that I've concentrated on so far seem to be making me feel a bit better about myself. I would recommend this book to anyone who suffers with self esteem issues.

I would 100% recommend this book to everyone! It has been such an eye opener. I have never read a book start to finish before but due to my situation I had to do something. It was so easy to read and has literally changed my life in so many ways.

even though its a small book, it is packed with every espect of your wellbeing you would want to cover.I loved the styled of writing by the author, it's isn't a calm way of presenting, it's more sitting you on a pedastool and giving you a firm talking too, but the author does it well which I really liked about the book.sometimes I wonder if I'm just reading the same things over and over, compared to other books but this book is presented and laid out well and he gives you an indepth criteria into every aspect of your life, like I mentioned, the author presents it in a great way which makes you want to keep reading.

This book has a lot of good things to reflect on and has a lot of wisdom, but be careful when reading it, if you are depressed, for example, because it starts off by saying that you are responsible for your life and for what happens. This could imply that any illness, physical or mental is your fault. Or even Post Traumatic Stress. Of course none of these things are your fault.On the whole, the book is good when it comes to loving yourself, but it starts off quite critical.Secondly and most importantly, there is a serious mistake in the section on emotions. The author asserts that we are responsible for everything that we feel and that no-one else can cause us to feel anything. He says it is caused by what we think, so we can change it. However, he himself then contradicts this by saying that we need to accept all emotions and not judge them. He says we should allow ourselves to feel them. That's true, but the part before is wrong.It is like saying that if someone says something nasty to you and you feel upset, it is your fault that nasty things upset you. You caused yourself to feel that way! Of course that is nonsense. People know what hurts others and often say hurtful things deliberately as a result, is that your fault too? Can you control the hurt that you will feel? Can you stop others from repeatedly saying hurtful things which will then cause you pain? Whose fault is that, if someone says something to hurt you and you feel hurt? It is the same whether you hurt someone physically, or emotionally, the person causing the hurt is responsible.If it were true that we choose our feelings, that would mean that if a hurricane came and flattened your home and destroyed your family, that you could choose not to be sad about it. Or that you are not feeling sad because of the event, but because you have chosen to feel sad. Even if that were possible, he does not show how you can feel happy instead of sad/pain, when something bad happens. In addition, if you could choose how you felt in every situation, you would have no genuine compassion, you would simply be a robot. What would make you human or alive?This is similar to saying that if someone stabs you with a knife, they did not hurt you, it was your body's pain receptors which caused you pain and thus the person who stabbed you didn't cause your pain, you/your brain did.So, ignore what he says about other people not causing your emotions. However, what is true, is that you can control your reactions to events. What you do, not what you feel. Thus, once something happens which hurts or upsets you, you can choose how you respond. Do you hurt back, do you walk away? Do you spend the rest of your life worrying about it. Or do you choose to accept it as best you can. You have control over your actions in response to events, not over how you feel.

Absolutely fantastic book!! It really helped raise my self esteem and stop worrying and thinking negatively!