If This Is Love, Why Do I Feel So Insecure?

This book provided a thorough explanation of the different types of attachments. It gives insight and encouragement to help a person break unhelpful patterns in personal behaviour and in partner choices. It was a very worthwhile read.

I don't recommend this book unless you are ready to be honest with yourself because this book will open old wounds. In retrospect, everyone should have this book on their shelf.For me, I was going through an on-and-off / a two-year relationship that was going downhill. I bought this book as to assist in "fixing" the relationship. On the contrary, it assisted in helping me realize my own internal issues that I have always denied or never considered having. And although, I am an anti-Freud, our childhood experiences do shape how we behave in adult relationships.And while this book does assist in the reader discovering their weaknesses, it does not assist in the skills as a way of attack. As in, it helps you realize details about yourself, the monster within so to speak, but it does not assist in how you are supposed to approach your flaws, such as intimacy issues.Then again, that is the one that I liked about this book: it wasn't a psychologist in the sense that it labeled for you, step-by-step, what was wrong with you and how to approach it now. The book has multiple stories under different categories and it lets the reader identify themselves in these people. In this sense, this book helped me realize a pattern in my relationships and things that I kept telling my now-ex-boyfriend that he needed to fix about himself, was actually something internal to myself.How I used this book is I used it as an introduction to understanding myself and then searching for other sources that would help me confront my insecurities.

I read this years ago and I find myself still recommending it to everyone who tells me they are having problems in their romantic life.I wanted to write this note to say that it is very unfair to see other reviewers giving this few stars because they expected it to be something else, rather than judge it on its merits.I, in fact, loved this book for the exact reasons others disliked it. I was never after some silly self-help flick. I was after real science! This is exactly what this book is.The only thing that I will say is that maybe the title isn't the best for such a book.

This is that kind of book that you will find yourself quoting and quoting on and on. Outstanding research, great interpretation and lots of bibliography to continue on your own.

A very detailed book. You need plenty of time to read through it in order to fully appreciate the hard work gone into the writing of this book.