How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved

Striving for answers to why I keep getting into poor relationships with men that emotionally and/or physically abuse me I decided to purchase this book. For some reason after putting the order through on Amazon, I wanted to cancel the order because I just had a feeling it was one of the usual run-of-the-mill books that will tell me what I already know without any insight into what it is that "I" am seeing or not seeing that causes me to consistently get into poor relationships. But I remember some parts of the book that I wasn't able to read online and decided not to cancel this order out of curiousity of those parts that were not available for me to read.Much to my amazement this was the best purchase that I've ever done in terms of relationships and with getting the much-needed answers to the reasons for why I have chosen the kinds of men that I have and essentially continue to do. The author thoroughly details the eight different kinds of bad relationships to get into with examples from her own practice with clients giving examples and reasons for what these individuals overlooked 'in the very beginning of the relationship' the red flags with things said and done from the man that turned out to be a poor choice in the end. There are many reasons that revolve around a person's choice of a partner and it has to do with the messages we received while growing up from our parents, whether or not you were abused as a child, whether or not one or both of our parents have a mental illness and the most important of all.....the reasoning women use to skim over those red flags by ignoring them.This book is so open with integrity and detailed explanations of those red flags that it has opened my eyes to a current relationship that I am in for which I am not happy in and have been ignoring the red flags that have been associated with it over the past few years that I've been in it. I haven't been able to put my finger on this relationship, but after reading this book, I see exactly what is going on and where I went wrong right in the very beginning. It looks like it is time for me to get rid of this man and the sooner the better. This book is truly about being able to see the Red Flags BEFORE getting involved so I have a little bit of a mess to entangle with my current relationship.I am a social work major at the local university and while reading this book I've been able to give myself a direction in life to helping women, young and old, to help them understand the different red flags of a relationship in order to avoid getting into a bad relationship. Obviously this isn't going to work for all women, but the wealth of knowledge this book portrayed with it's numerous resources is one of the BEST books a woman could ever pick up and read for her own safety and sanity! Therefore I recommend this book to any of you ladies out there if you are in a relationship that you are just not feeling 100% right about and can't put your finger on or have just met a man that you haven't gotten "involved" with too deeply.This book has enabled me to see and to reflect back on all of the red flags that I've been overlooking since being involved with the man that I am currently with....those red flags that I have deliberately justified in my own sense to be somethine else. This man is going to get dumped very quickly because I simply do not need another poor relationship on my hands that will escalate to becoming worse. I am just glad that we live 1.5 hours away from eachother and that we are both very busy with our personal lives.I cannot stress enough the importance of reading this book - it may save you a lot of hassle and possibly your life if you are willing to get out of it in order to carry on with your own dignity.

First I have to say that this book should be required reading for every woman, whether single, in a relationship, married, doesn't matter. I highly recommend it to all single women especially because the author equips you with the information to recognize a dangerous man, how to recognize red flags, and how to avoid being this guys' next victim. Even women in a relationship with a stellar guy can benefit from this book, because chances are she will at sometime be called upon to give other women relationship advice, and the knowledge she gains from this book can keep a friend, relative, or coworker from placing themselves in harms way.Now I will say, despite the title, you won't be able to spot a dangerous man just by looking at him so as to avoid him altogether, unless he's doing something obvious, like wearing a gun or robbing a bank (but you wouldn't need the help of this book to recognize that those guys aren't Mr. Right anyway). Brown spends some time explaining what dangerous men are, what red flags are, how to recognize them and use them, and then she devotes one chapter each to profiling 8 kinds of dangerous men: the permanent clinger, the parental seeker, the emotionally unavailable man, the man with a hidden life, *the mentally ill man, the addict, the abusive or violent man, and the emotional predator.Each chapter on the different kinds of dangerous men describes their character traits, actions, the kinds of women they target, why they're successful, stories of women who encountered these kinds of men, a red-alert behavioral check list, and a strategy for keeping oneself from being victimized by these guys. Brown is constantly reminding the reader that dangerous men don't necessarily look dangerous. They can be intelligent, well spoken, charming, well-dressed, gainfully employed, financially stable, and even appear religious. So spotting these guys from afar and totally avoiding them may not be possible. What you will be able to do after reading this book is have enough information to recognize the warning signs that the guy is iffy early on, when it's easiest and safest to walk away.I am very thankful this book was written. Highly highly highly recommend.*And just so you know the author's not trying to be mean, the mentally ill men she defines as being dangerous are not just men who are "a little slow". These are men whose illness causes them to behave in violent, unpredictable, or destructive ways.Miss. Pen & Paper - Marriage for Christian Singles blog

This book really makes you question your choices in men, and why you make those choices. It makes you self reflect on yourself and your own personal issues, and why you would be attracted to the men in this book. I've given it to my best friend and my mom, and will continue to give it to every woman in my life!

This is an excellent book. It's insightful while being common sense and easy to read and understand. I highly recommend it and after reading it myself I purchased one for someone else I know. If you're concerned about a woman in your life and her string of bad choices - this would be a helpful tool to gift.

Sobre typos peligrosos. Su manera de estilo etc. Cada mujer o joven debe leer este libro para tener un vida feliz sin problemas. Los peligrosos hombres son los mejor actores. todo falsos

Ich kann nur Schulenglisch (und das auch nicht so toll), deswegen schreibe ich auf deutsch, ich lese hin und wieder englische Bücher, weil auf diese Art und in deutsch zu diesem Thema kaum Adäquates zu finden ist.Sie fährt im Text so glatt über die typischen Eigenschaften der gefährlichen Männer, dass ich wirklich lachen musste, aber ich denke, sie hat recht. Man hört ihre Einstellung heraus und auch die gefällt mir gut.Meinen Typen hab ich in der Sammlung schon gefunden und ich kann nur von Herzen zustimmen.Und sie kennt die „Ausreden“ mit denen man sich das „Unverdauliche“ schmackhaft zu machen versucht, obwohl der Magen revoltiert. Ich bin froh das Buch gefunden zu haben und kann es zum Thema „Partnersuche“ empfehlen, sich auch dabei Zeit zu lassen und eine entspannte, überlegte Einstellung beizubehalten, scheint - wie auch bei anderen wichtigen Lebensentscheidungen - sinnvoll zu sein.

excellent livre, urgent à lire à tout age ,a relire chaque fois ou le doute s'installe! livre de chevet! urgent

I have married twice and both times I picked men of a similar personality. I found both of them in this book and now hope with reading the book over and over, to avoid the pitfalls which obviously have steered me towards these men. Now with the dark glasses off I can actually SEE what kind of man I am still married to but am in the process of divorcing, and the one I was married to years ago. I really can't rate this book highly enough. I didn't realise I was in an abusive relationship till about 2009, if you have any doubts, niggles, something isn't right but you can't put your finger on it, read as much as you can about abusive relationships, definitely read this book, you will have the veil removed from your eyes and realise YOU ARE NOT CRAZY, its him and his "games" who is messing with your head.