Stop People Pleasing: How to Start Saying No, Set Healthy Boundaries, and Express Yourself (Master the Art of Self-Improvement)

I was unaware that this book was self published until a few chapters in. There are grammatical errors, pages without numbers, and few citations. The author does not include their qualifications or a bio. While there were some practical tips, the book was poorly researched and appeared to contain the author's unsubstantiated ideas or mere anecdotal evidence. I would recommend searching for an alternative resource on this topic.

I hate conflict and have always struggled with being a people pleaser, so this title caught my eye. Most of the time, it’s not that big a deal for me and I don’t mind, but there have been times when I have done things I really hated doing because I just couldn’t say “no.” These were friends, and I was insecure enough to be afraid of what they would think of me if I didn’t go along. Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not talking about illegal or even bad things, just things I didn’t want to do. This book helped me to see the difference between being considerate of others, and compromising my individuality. I learned through this book that when done tactfully and with care, I can maintain my desires and individuality and actually gain my friends’ respect while saying no.The author shares his path of struggle with this and his journey through which he has evolved as a coach to help others. He has developed a 14 day action plan and he will help you initially understand how people pleasing is rooted in each of us and how to overcome it. If you struggle with this, I think you will find it to be helpful. I know I did.

Insightful and interesting book that enabled me understand how People pleasing can be a disorder, and how it is important to be assertive and start saying NO when you don't want to say YES. The book does a terrific job of bringing out through an awareness test the number of ways a person becomes a people pleaser. While it is important to be considerate of others, diplomatic and amiable, but through the book and its 10 chapters one can build strategies and tactics to overcome the people pleasing habit. I found the chapters - dealing with people's reactions, dealing with manipulative and intrusive people, stop pleasing in 2 weeks, and the people pleasing mindset hacking the most useful and relevant chapters in the book. Highly recommended.

This book explains why some of us so often say “yes” to people when we want to say “no”; agree to things we don’t really want to do, or honestly don’t have time for even if we wanted. If this happen too often, eventually others will take you for granted, and you will not be taken seriously even when you try to say no.For most of us this isn’t a deep psychological issue, but is a personality defect that can cause stress and anxiety. Fortunately it can be cured with a little understanding and work, and for that, this book does a pretty could job.There is discussion about why we are afraid to say no -- we hate to disappoint, or fear someone will become angry with us, or not like us anymore, or we will be left out of our group. A checklist helps pinpoint what is happening in your own case. From there the book shows how to stop constantly apologizing, and how to say no without starting an argument. Most importantly, how to discover your personal boundaries, and then get others to accept and respect them without a hostile confrontation. Special emphasis is placed on learning how to be assertive, but not aggressive and certainly not passive.If you are unhappy with your personal boundaries this little book is worth a look.

There are a couple people who come to mind when I think back upon this book. People pleasing seems to be a character disorder in which the pleaser suffers from low self-esteem and will do anything to "fit in". This can be a dangerous trait and one that needs to be remedied for the sake of the individual. That being said, the self-help book of which I now review seems to be more of quick fix which simply places a band aid over the emotional wound. Many people will be neutral in matters, not wanting to cause waves in relationships, finding means by which to convey their opposition without directly offending the others. Others, however, and this observation is few in number by myself, there are those who are in direct opposition to whatever the situation may bee, they suffering from opposition defiance disorder. I have always found it best to be neutral, in most instances, but always standing firm for my beliefs, stating so in a most diplomatic fashion. This quick read seems to follow my thinking, laying out strategies of sound advice. This work is a good supplement for the mainstream social situation, but for the unfortunates who fall outside the spectrum, it is advisable to seek out professional counceling.

I am suffering from pleasing people, saying yes too quickly, and not being as assertive as I can see afterward.Chase Hill studied psychology and based the book on his knowledge and experience. The book is well structured.I read several other books on similar topics and confirm this book contains many unique and original thoughts and ways. The proposed ways encouraged my creativity.The book references several sources, mainly psychological research and papers. What I like most is that the content is well balanced. It is not only about the skill but also widens horizons for other parts of life, like having good friends, my own passions, helping my mom, or creating your originality.There are a few grammar errors, but they did not disturb me from reading and getting the message.

It’s one thing to know why you should change unhealthy practices and habits. It’s another thing to be shown how to do it. Chase does a great job in taking you through a step-by-step action plan that’ll have you expressing your true desires and establishing healthy boundaries.I found Chapter 8 particularly helpful in discovering how to stand up for yourself. The eight assertiveness techniques are ones I’ll be implementing in the near future.This is a great resource for anyone who struggles with establishing and more importantly maintaining healthy relationships.

Interesting book and from the heart, lots of good ideas, the only down side was the writing is a little bit clumsy in parts as others have mentioned which is a shame. Still a goo and helpful book.

A very helpful book for those who struggle to put boundaries in place - and stick to them!

Good book. Easy to team even for those who doesn’t speak English fluently. Great examples and guidelines. Interesting to read even for those who knows how to say no 😉

A great book that simply and clearly explains the importance of putting ourselves first without being selfish and at the same time respecting others.